Fear: The Truth About It and How to Deal with It
“The best things in life are on the other side of terror, on the other side of your maximum fear,…..”
– Will Smith
In this world where we are usually propelled by fear, it’s really hard to get out. We might not notice but most of our decisions are fear-based. Most of us are scared of the uncertainty of the future, scared of failing, and scared of being judged. That’s why most of the time, we just choose the safest way to live.
I will admit that there was a lot of times when I wasted an opportunity because I was just petrified. Just like the thought of starting my own blog, for example. I’ve been planning to blog since last year but whenever I feel the excitement to do something I like, my mind starts to bombard me with negative thoughts:
I tried actually, I thought that if I just stop thinking about it and pretend that I’m not scared, then everything will be okay but it doesn’t work that way. The more I try to resist fear, the more it resurfaces.
In her book, Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear, Elizabeth Gilbert differentiate being fearless and being brave. She said, “Bravery means doing something scary. Fearlessness means not even understanding what the word scary means”. Being fearless is a myth and it’s not something that we need to achieve.
How did I deal with my fear
In that moment, I realized how important fear is with our life and that it’s already a part of us. Without fear, most of us are probably dead because we will not be able to sense danger. The only thing that we can do is to not allow it to control our decisions and it should not have the power to stop us doing things that matter to us.
One more exercise is something that I learned from theminimalists.com, this is to write the things that we are afraid of, or that we can’t do and ask ourselves why. Like the former ones, this too is liberating. It helps us dig deeper and get to know ourselves.
It’s very common in our society to just give up something that makes us happy but risky and settle for something that we feel more comfortable but have you ever ask yourself, “is that all?” What if we die tomorrow without even doing something that made us feel alive?