10 Things That I Would Allow Myself to Do This Year

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“For last year’s words belong to last year’s language
 and next year’s words await another voice.”
― T.S. Eliot, Four Quartets

2018 has been a good year for me. I’m very thankful that I survived one more year, but I can’t say that it was great because I felt like I haven’t done much. I spent most of my time last year in the four corners of my house and I’ve been very inactive. I felt like I didn’t give myself the chance to discover something new and do something that sparks joy in my life. I stayed too much in my comfort zone to the point where I felt that it wasn’t comfortable anymore.

This year, I want to do and be better.

But I don’t want to do the same New Year’s resolution list. So I tried to make it a little different.

First things first

I chose a theme for this year before I ponder on the top 10 things that I would do (more) this year.

My theme for 2019 is “Sharing and Growing.”

This theme will serve as my guide or my outline this year. It will be my compass and I will line my goals with it.

So here are the 10 things that I would allow myself to do this year.

I would allow myself to grow.​

This year, I will attend workshops, read more books, consume content that will inspire and motivate me to do and be something in this world. I want to explore, discover new ideas, and develop skills that I can use for my life’s mission.

I would allow myself to do more of what makes me happy.

I realized how short our life is and doing things to please other people is not a good way to live. I will say no to things that I don’t want to do and yes to things that I am curious about. This year, I will focus on myself and my happiness. 

I’ve learned that I am the one who’s responsible with my own life and my own happiness and I should not depend on others. 

I would allow myself to focus on meeting deadlines.

This year, I want to learn how to commit. I will set deadlines for my projects and I will meet that. As I said in my other blog, “Done is better than perfect.” I will choose consistency rather than perfection

I would hone my intuition.

To be honest, I don’t usually listen to my intuition. Oftentimes, I do the opposite and the results are not good. So this year, I will listen more to my intuition. I will mold it and follow it, even if the idea of trusting myself scares me at times.

I would allow myself to let go.

Forgiving and letting go are some traits that I would want to master. In this world where negative emotions are prevalent, it’s hard to practice letting go. As for me, I decided to focus on the good and let go of hurt, disappointment, guilt, and regret. Well, it’s hard but I know that practicing this will bring me happiness in the future.

I would allow myself to take more breaks from social media.

I admit that I still get jealous of other people’s lives. There are still times when I wish that I can be as beautiful, as rich, and as talented as someone. Whenever I’m in that point of my life, I do a social media detox and I’m a lot better. 

This year, I will take more breaks. I will value the time when I disconnect from the outside world and I will use this time to connect with my soul.

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I would allow myself to create, create and create.

I will let myself experiment and I will make room for mistakes. This year, even if most of the results will not be good, I will just keep on trying. That’s the only way that I could learn. I would let myself create, enjoy the process and have fun.

I would allow myself to be more vulnerable.

One thing I hate is showing people my weakness. I hate hearing negative comments and judgments. But now, I’m trying to accept and learn how to celebrate and embrace my flaws. I’ve realized that people are looking for someone whom they can connect with. In order to be that person, I need to open up and be more vulnerable. 

I need to accept the fact that people will judge me no matter what I do. So  the best thing to do is to be true and honest, and these are two things that my favorite content creators possess. 

I would allow myself to eat that chocolate.

This goes deeper than chocolates. I’ve noticed that whenever I deprived myself of eating or doing something, I became worse. If I deprive myself of eating one chocolate this morning, I will eat two or more at night. So this year, I would loosen up and I will let myself indulge but I will make sure to put limits.

I would allow myself to prioritize.

Last 2018, I tried to do a lot of things because I was rushing myself to get better quick. But by the end of last year, I realized that I didn’t develop any habit that stuck. Turns out that I set too much goals and I was overwhelmed. So this year, I decided to take it slow and pick only 3 goals that I will focus on. In this way, I will be able to manage my time.

End note

So here’s the end of my list. I know that I will not be able to commit to everything above but at least I have an outline of what I want to do more of this year. It’s better to have a list than to have nothing and do things that I didn’t choose.

We have another year to make things work. We have another year to discover ourselves and be a better version. To be able to achieve something great this year, we need to plan before we can execute.

So don’t be afraid and don’t procrastinate. Get your pen and your favorite notebook and make your decision today. You’ve got this! 

What would you allow yourself to this year?What do you want to do more  of?  What are the things that you would love to do less of? Comment down below, I would love to hear from you.

BONUS: I made a simple worksheet that is related to setting your goals for this year. If you want to use my free worksheet, please feel free to download it.  Click here.  

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